7 Personal Development Tips Every Millennial Should Adopt By their 30s
Society has told us that by age 30 our list of accomplishments should be long. Therefore, we tell ourselves that we need to accomplish this and that by 30 – to have property, education, vehicle, career and all the other must haves. Please stop with the unnecessary pressure to fit in with the status quo – who cares at what age you acquire certain goals.
What you need is perspective and a plan to get there by the time you turn 30.
You may have started off later in life, perhaps due to financial setbacks or other responsibilities but by a certain age you are expected to know the basics.
Do not get me wrong, you must set timelines, but if you can’t, do not kill yourself over it.
By the time you’ve entered your 30s, you should have learned these 7 hacks and more.
- Money management:
You should have a grasp on your finances by 30. How good are you with managing money? During my early 20s, I made both wise and careless financial decisions, some of the latter left me in destitute situations which took a while to recover from.
You will grow up, make money and work harder to make more money and sometimes lose money. Have you ever analyzed the schematics of how easy it is to make money and simultaneously lose it if poorly managed? Do people work for leisure or work for survival or both? Everyone should have financial goals, whether it’s to save up X amount by age 30 or 40. If you cannot balance this aspect, every other goal will suffer since money is the pre-requisite to acquire things, travel, eat and survive. Finance focus has some excellent tips on money management.
- Routine: I have spoken to several professionals including successful entrepreneurs around the Caribbean and they all said the same thing to me; “find a routine that works for you and commit to it.” You may be wondering why, but routine helps keep you in check. To successfully accomplish anything, you must follow a process, which outlines the necessary chain of activities to be undertaken in order to accomplish that goal.
Some people have established a morning routine, an afternoon/evening and even weekend routine. A sample routine for most might be wake up, pray, exercise, prepare breakfast then prepare family for work or school. If you work for yourself, you might set a time to start work on the computer or visit your office. But most days you would do the same chain of activities leading up to one thing.
But what happens in between? How do your daily habits influence your life – the events you choose to associate with or exempt from your life?
My morning routine is usually wakeup, pray (not always, – being honest), rush to shower, iron, dress. I arrive at work 30 minutes before which allows me to settle, have breakfast and clear my mind before I commence working. When I am less rushed, I concentrate well. My afternoon routine varies based on the days. I am still trying to balance it, but as my projects alternate so does my routine. Nonetheless, I must write in the evenings if I want to remain consistent with my blogging goals. This works for me right now.
What does your routine include?
If you really think about it, your custom contributes to finding your equilibrium. This is the drug which keeps you sane – everybody adopts one. Otherwise, you will be thrown off track. As your life gets busier or you take on more jobs/activities, you will need to institute set routines that works based on your needs. It is like a ritual that becomes part of your everyday life.
- Likeability > Enmity: The more successful you become, the more you will be talked about both positively and negatively. As you accomplish things, you may encounter naysayers, lose some friends and gain new ones based on your status. You may not be liked by many and that is alright. I’m not encouraging you to try to win friends, but, you ought to be cautious in how you handle the negative energy. Treat others better than they treat you and remember that you can change a circumstance by changing your response. Know how to discern whether it is constructive criticism or pure hate.
In the workplace, you will encounter disagreements especially when strong personalities clash leading to heated discussions. You would have at least experienced some common behaviours during your 20s, and so by your 30s, your emotional intelligence should come into practice.
- Identify with your spirituality: Are you a church goer, believer or none? Many people have spiritual doctrines, scientific or some none (agnostics) which helps govern their behaviour, and hence form their morals and values as an individual.
We were socially conditioned to accept certain behaviours and taught the difference between right and wrong from a young age. The intricacies of what is considered morally wrong depend on culture. For example, sex before marriage is condemned in some cultures but widely accepted in most parts of the world. Some of us may have changed after being exposed to different cultures while some maintain it. If you cannot identify with something, then you will fall for anything.
”There is a fundamental question we all have to face. How are we to live our lives; by what principles and moral values will be guided and inspired” – H.Jackson Brown Jr.
As you grow older, your decisions and point of self-actualization are dependent on your beliefs. The person you marry, your friends and the career you pursue will all be influenced by your beliefs.
Some people aim for power and success without reverence to a higher power, others aim to be leaders whilst serving God.
But identity defines who you are, how you are labelled and what influence you will have on others.
- Understand the concept of time management: In spite of all the time management skills or programs you have taken, you will still struggle with managing your time.
Successful time management requires commitment and determination. Harris (2008.p.22) defines time management as “the process of skilfully applying time and perfect a specific activity within a time constraint.” In essence, time is sensitive and many people seldom manage their time well, myself included. But, we ought to.
I use a planner to stay on top of tasks, but how often do I complete them within a stipulated time. I get stuff done but not always as planned. Try to observe your most productive hours to master use of time because no matter how often you try to get certain task done, there are some hours when you simply can’t focus.
Our brain function and concentration levels vary. For me, early mornings and late nights are my best time to write. The mind is usually clear and outdoor activities from neighbors are at a minimum. During the day, I am programmed to focus on work and at night blog. Once you understand which correlates with you, then you will be fine.
- Accept responsibility: It takes a self-actualised person to humbly accept responsibility for their actions. When things do not go as planned, we try to blame someone, or a situation in our lives. But most times, the issue is with us. We need to fix our attitude, be more responsible or even commit to changing.
As a young professional, I realised that my character is more important than being right all the time. When I make a mistake, I acknowledge it, apologize (if necessary) and move on. Do not ever try to hide things. I will be honest even when I know I will get in trouble since nothing surpasses a clear conscience.
- You will fail: I remember the first time I failed a course, I cried so freaking much. I started to assess my self-worth. I was just miserable, thought about it for a few days and it took me a while to re-group. But did I die? Nope… I improved significantly.
Failures is part of the learning process and trust me when I say, you will fail multiple times, whether it’s at work, school and relationships. According to Ellen DeGeneres; “it’s failure that gives you the proper perspective on success.”
So when faced with failure, be mindful and do not be too hard on yourself. You will grow.
What hacks have you learned thus far which contribute towards your growth in your 30s?
Written by guest blogger Merlinda Francois who shares amazing content and tips to help others become more marketable and small businesses grow their brand. Check out more on MerlindaFrancois.com.